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Episode 154: Preventing midlife burnout with Dr Sola Togun-Butler

Dr Sola Togun-Butler is a psychotherapist and transformative life coach. She’s the founder of Butterfly Counseling Services and speaks regularly on the importance of mental health and wellness, while offering solutions to minimize stress, prevent burnout and achieve balance. 

We talk about:

  • The importance of addressing societal expectations that lead to burnout in women, particularly in midlife
  • The guilt that arises from cultural and gender expectations that women should prioritize their children and family over their own needs
  • How changing thought patterns through cognitive restructuring and reframing can help reduce feelings of guilt
  • How Dr Sola’s Nigerian cultural background influenced her upbringing
  • Polarization in the menopause discourse
  • Finding it easier to listen to different perspectives as you get older
  • The importance of curiosity and seeking diverse viewpoints in midlife
  • How Dr Sola helps midlife women come to terms with or move on from trauma
  • Why women fear embracing their authentic selves due to fear of rejection from others
  • How women can make changes despite potential conflict with loved ones
  • The power of butterflies as a symbol of transformation
  • Some effective strategies for preventing burnout
  • How Dr Sola helps women practice self compassion
  • Differences between US and Nigerian culture in regards to the status of women as they get older
  • Ageism and self-love in UK and Nigerian cultures

And more!

Dr Sola’s website: butterflycounselingservices.com

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managing anxiety

Managing anxiety with Trish Beauchamp

All about anxiety: why it’s bad for many women in midlife, how Covid makes it even worse and what we can do about it.

Learning to prioritize yourself

Learning to prioritize yourself with Linda McLean

A highly personal interview with my friend, Canadian singer songwriter Linda McLean, she shares about how we can prioritize ourselves and speak our truth.

Living agefully with Mariann Aalda

Meet Mariann Aalda, an American actress, stand-up comedian, and age-full evangelist. She considers age to be her superpower!

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Episode 153: Getting to grips with the crisis of care with Emily Kenway

Emily Kenway is the author of the groundbreaking book, “Who Cares: the Hidden Crisis of Caregiving and How We Solve It”, written after the painful experience of caring for her cancer stricken mother. Who Cares is an intimate and deeply researched account of the experiences of unpaid carers, and a call for us all to put care at the center of our lives. Emily researches, writes and speaks about thought-provoking social issues, shedding light on the crucial forces shaping our lives and communities.

We talk about:

  • How Emily found the strength to write such a book out of her own deep grief
  • Emily’s personal experience with caregiving
  • The importance of recognizing care as a continuous condition of life
  • The need for more practical support for carers 
  • Reducing the stigma surrounding care work
  • How older people can refuse outside help due to vulnerability concerns
  • How women are often expected to prioritize care work over paid work
  • Disparities in labor rights and opportunities between men and women
  • Gender roles in caregiving for elderly relatives
  • Age, vulnerability, and acceptance of care
  • How practising reciprocal support can help create a culture that values vulnerability and mutual aid
  • The care commons idea – sharing care responsibilities in a community 
  • The need for government action on workplace regulations to enable care
  • Reducing working hours to improve productivity and work-life balance

And more!

Emily’s website: emilykenway.com

Twitter | Instagram

Emily’s book: Who Cares: the Hidden Crisis of Caregiving and How We Solve It

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Caring for older parents with Liz O’Donnell

Liz O’Donnell is the founder of Working Daughter, a community supporting people caring for loved ones and especially older parents.

Providing For Your Aging Parents And Yourself

A look at how you can best support your aging parents while also making sure that you’re in good shape too.

Caring for a loved one with dementia with Carolyn Birrell

Carolyn Birrell shares her own journey navigating her mother’s path into dementia, so that others may be better prepared.

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Episode 152: Getting back on stage with Josephine Pembroke

Josephine Pembroke is a performer and founder of Radio Gorgeous. She trained at Drama Studio and has been in many bands, cabaret and theatre productions. She decided to get back on stage in her 60s and is currently starring in her own show, The Working Girls of Soho, which premiered at the Edinburgh Festival. Josephine is a hoot! Prepare to giggle and be inspired that anything is possible!

We talk about:

  • Why Josephine is back on the stage after all these years
  • What the show, The Working Girls of Soho, is all about
  • The history and culture of Soho
  • Life in London in the 80s and 90s
  • Josephine’s experience in the London’s club scene
  • What’s it like for Josephine to actually be doing cabaret on the stage
  • The all-girl band, Pussies Galore and their performances in London and abroad
  • Josephine’s struggle with needing attention 
  • The importance of discipline and creativity in Josephine’s life
  • What Josephine has learned about herself by going back on the stage
  • How baby steps are all we need to make big change

And more!

Instagram | Facebook | Twitter

Podcast: Radio Gorgeous

Her upcoming event: The Working Girls of Soho | Monday 13th November 7:30pm

You can read more about Josephine’s adventures here.

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Giggling about incontinence with Elaine Miller

Meet pelvic physio turned stand-up comedian Elaine Miller otherwise known as Gusset Grippers. She’s on a mission to stop incontinence!

Becoming the singing gynecologist with Dr Kristina Dervaitis

Meet singer/songwriter/OBGYN Dr Kristina Dervaitis who followed her singing dream while still doing gynecology! Find out what inspired her.

Choosing to be brave with Alexandra Boyd

Alexandra Boyd is an actress, screenwriter and director amongst other things! She also crossed an ocean for love in midlife!

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Episode 151: Becoming a digital publisher with Amanda O’Brien

Amanda O’ Brien became a full-time digital publisher in midlife, with four successful websites focusing on travel, pets and information. She’s a former marketing director at big corporations and an Australian who’s made London her home. She’s a boutique adventurer, and she’s visited over 70 countries on her travels.

We talk about:

  • What it was like for Amanda to switch from marketing director to digital publisher in midlife
  • How advertising network Mediavine works and its impact on website traffic and SEO
  • Transitioning from marketing to digital publishing
  • Amanda’s solo travel experiences and her advice for women
  • Amanda’s experience of climbing Kilimanjaro
  • The experience of feeling uncomfortable in traveling solo, but finding comfort in realizing that nobody notices or cares.
  • What Amanda likes about being an Aussie in London
  • Cultural difference between Australia and the UK
  • Bhutan culture, tourism, and aging society
  • Travel blogging, social media, and influencer marketing
  • Midlife transitions, online presence, and networking

And more!

Amanda’s websites:

theboutiqueadventurer.com | thediscerningcat.com | thedogsnobs.com | newinterestingfacts.com

Instagram | Facebook

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The joy of adventure with Alice Morrison

Alice Morrison has been described as ‘Indiana Jones for girls’. She‘s an adventurer who treks through the toughest of habitats.

Travelling solo with Deborah Ives

Meet solo travel enthusiast and blogger, Deborah Ives, who’s passionate about encouraging and facilitating solo travel for women in midlife and beyond.

Choosing to live in the Arctic with Laura Galloway

Meet Laura Galloway author of Dalvi: Six Years in the Arctic Tundra, a heart-rending memoir and a love letter to the landscape.

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Episode 150: Finding the true truth with Ann Marie McQueen

Celebrating episode 150 of the podcast with a very special guest. Ann Marie McQueen is a journalist on the world stage, focused on menopause and on a mission to cut through misleading narratives and dodgy data. She founded HotFlash Inc in 2020 to cover the latest clinical studies, treatments, products, guidance and more via a weekly research letter, podcast and across social media. She’s also one of the founder members of MenoClarity.

We talk about:

  • Why and how menopause became Ann Marie’s focus
  • Living in the Middle East as a Canadian expat
  • Cultural differences around menopause narratives
  • What annoys and concerns her about how menopause is portrayed
  • Issues around the impact of social media on menopause narratives
  • The oversimplification of menopause messages
  • Ann Marie’s struggles with ill health and separating that out from hormonal change
  • The impact of belief systems and trauma on menopause
  • The impact of early parental bereavement
  • How her view of menopause has changed
  • Understanding research and what it’s really saying
  • Being sceptical about big promises that make people money
  • Menopause narratives that don’t empower women
  • Menopause as a hero’s journey

And more!

Anne Marie’s website: hotflashinc.com

Instagram | Twitter | Tiktok

Podcast: The Hotflash inc podcast

Resources mentioned:

Hotflash inc episode 73: I had a good mother

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Being wiser about menopause with Tania Elfersy

Tania Elfersy talks about how we can be wiser about the menopause transition, so we suffer less and feel its power more.

How To Manage Menopause Without HRT

It is perfectly possible to manage menopause without HRT. Diet, exercise, and lifestyle changes can all have an enormous impact.

Normalizing menopause with Prof Martha Hickey

An important conversation with Professor Martha Hickey about normalizing menopause. It may be difficult for some, but is completely normal.

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Episode 149: Creating a career you love with Carolyn Parry

Carolyn Parry is the founder of Career Alchemy, helping early-stage and established professionals escape from a job they hate and create a career they love, on purpose.

She’s an award-winning career coach, a TEDx speaker and host of the Change Your Story podcast. She is the President of the Career Development Institute and based in Wales.

We talk about:

  • Carolyn’s own career crisis
  • Knowing what you don’t want is as important as knowing what you want.
  • The emotional labor that women do in the office
  • How technology has changed the workplace
  • Why women have an advantage over men
  • The importance of investing in yourself
  • The three types of people you find at work
  • The choice of what story to write
  • How to reconnect with what really matters
  • The impact of imposter syndrome
  • Maintaining a sense of purpose is important for mental health
  • Finding the courage to change track
  • How to pivot into a new industry
  • Exploring ways to do life differently
  • How to become a non-exec director
  • How to get involved in your community

And more!

Carolyn’s website: careeralchemy.co.uk

Podcast: Change Your Story

Linkedin | Twitter | Instagram

Resources mentioned:

Thinking, Fast and Slow | Citizens’ Advice Bureau

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Making The Most Of Midlife With Karen Skidmore

Talking to consultant Karen Skidmore about the shifts we need to make in midlife so we make the very most of this transformational time.

How To Prepare For A Midlife Change Of Career

Changing career in midlife might be scary but it’s not impossible. Here are top tips for how to go about a midlife career change.

Turning Midlife Into Prime Time With Juju Hook

Juju Hook, author of Hot Flashes, Carpools, and Dirty Martinis, tells us how to get out of our own way when trying to make change in midlife.

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Episode 148: Why we need more MenoClarity

Something very different for this podcast – five guests on one show! Five of my fellow founders of MenoClarity, the knowledge hub for menopause set up in 2023. I’m talking to Pat Duckworth, Prof Joyce Harper, Clarissa Kristjansson, Kate Codrington and Ann Marie McQueen about why we’ve come together and what we hope to achieve with MenoClarity. This is a wild and at times hilarious conversation!

We talk about:

  • The menopause myths we’re hoping to bust
  • Bringing some positivity to menopause without being Pollyannaish about it
  • Establishing a middle reliable ground in the currently very polarized menopause world
  • Bringing clarity to what symptoms are really due to menopause and what might not be
  • Cherry picking research findings to suit certain narratives
  • The dangers of getting information from social media
  • Providing trusted sources of information
  • The three stages of womanhood – none should be the default, they all matter
  • How we’re not broken in midlife and we don’t need fixing
  • Our inaugural online summit on Friday 29 September – MenoClarity Live: Menopause Without The Hype

And more!

MenoClarity’s website: menoclarity.com

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Register for FREE: MenoClarity Live: Menopause Without The Hype

Book mentioned: The Slow Moon Climbs: The Science, History, and Meaning of Menopause

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Menopause And Nutrition With Karen Newby

Karen Newby is a nutritionist specializing in women’s hormonal health, especially menopause. There’s so much to learn from this conversation!

How To Embrace Your Second Spring With Kate Codrington

Wise woman Kate Codrington on how we can embrace our second spring, transitioning through menopause into a new, exciting phase of life.

Being Wiser In Menopause – With Tania Elfersy

Tania Elfersy is a transformative coach, speaker and award-winning author who helps women transform their experience of midlife change.

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Episode 147: Looking after women’s health with Dr Cathleen Brown

Dr. Cathleen Brown is a board certified obstetrician and gynecologist who has spent much of her career caring for female soldiers and their dependents. She was honorably discharged from the US Army after 12 years of meritorious service. She now provides gynecology services specifically for women at midlife during the menopause transition.

We talk about:

  • What was it like being an army doctor
  • How service women manage their periods when they’re on active service
  • The transition from military to civilian life
  • The difference between the medical system in America and the UK
  • How the US healthcare system needs an overhaul
  • What Cathleen likes about helping women in midlife and experiencing menopause
  • How women can help themselves in menopause
  • How women can access better food in America
  • How menopause can impact women’s health
  • Optimizing sleep and brain health

And more!

You can find Dr Cathleen on the Winona website: bywinona.com

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Upgrading The Menopause Conversation With Clarissa Kristjansson

Clarissa Kristjansson is breaking the bias about menopause. We discuss how much more needs to be included in menopause discussions.

How Gendered Ageism Is Affecting Older Women’s Health

When sexism and ageism combine, it has a huge impact, especially on women’s healthcare. How can women tackle gendered ageism?

Staying Fit And Healthy Through Menopause With Tania Dalton

Meet Tania Dalton, healthy aging coach and fitness trainer who’s passionate about redefining age and empowering women to embrace menopause.

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Episode 146: Writing your story with Julia Brewer Daily

Julia Brewer Daily wrote her first novel, No Names To Be Given, when she was over 50. This book was inspired by her own experience as an adopted child from a maternity home hospital in New Orleans. She’s also the host of the Authors Over 50 podcast. Her mission is to encourage those in mid-life and beyond to live their best lives in what she calls Life’s Sweetest Third. This is a fascinating conversation about what happened when Julia went looking for and started writing her story.

We talk about:

  • The personal story behind Julia’s first book
  • Julia’s experience of being adopted
  • Why it took so long for Julia to write her book
  • What it was like finding her birth family
  • Learning about and beginning to understand her birth mother’s experience
  • Julia’s writing process and her second book
  • Julia’s podcast and mission
  • How new writers can best get going
  • What helps writers fulfil their dreams

And more!

Julia’s website: www.juliadaily.com

Podcast: authorsover50.com

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Julia’s books: No Names To Be Given and The Fifth Daughter Of Thorn Ranch

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Making The Most Of Your Heart Beats With Julie Owen Moylan

Wisdom and laughs from the charming novelist Julie Owen Moylan talking about writing, living life to the full and being authentic.

Writing A Book For The First Time – What I Learnt

Here’s what Rachel Lankester learnt about writing a book for the first time.

Choosing To Live In The Arctic With Laura Galloway

Meet Laura Galloway author of Dalvi: Six Years in the Arctic Tundra, a heart-rending memoir and a love letter to the landscape.

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Episode 145: Leaning into midlife, solo with Rachel

A solo podcast from Rachel with more midlife musing on life, the universe and everything in between! Let’s lean into midlife and our wisdom years!

She talks about:

  • The new BSI Menstruation and Menopause in the Workplace Guide launch with Mariella Fostrup
  • How we need a revolution in how women especially older ones are viewed in the world
  • The inaugural MenoClarity Live summit in September
  • Out and about talking about midlife and menopause
  • The podcast season so far
  • One year off the booze!
  • How we only make change when we decide to

And more!

[The BSI Guide] Menstruation, Menstrual Health And Menopause In The Workplace

[Register Here] MenoClarity Live: Menopause Without The Hype | Friday 29th September 2023 | 9.30-17.00 UK Time

Time Magazine: Now’s The Time To Bring Up Menopause At Work

100 Days Without Alcohol

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Caring For Older Parents With Liz O’Donnell

Liz O’Donnell is the founder of Working Daughter, a community supporting people caring for loved ones and especially older parents.

What Happens When You Mix Menopause And Alcohol?

We may like a drink, but is menopause and alcohol good for us or a mix to be avoided? Here are some things to consider.

Emotional Eating And Drinking With Vicky Midwood

Vicky Midwood talks about disordered eating or drinking, and understanding the impact past behavior can have on us in midlife.

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Episode 144: The power of yoga for menopause with Niamh Daly

Niamh Daly is the founder of Yinstinct Yoga and focuses on creating yoga practices to help especially with menopause, training teachers around the world in this. She also runs courses in Menopause Awareness and Strategies for fitness professionals, nutrition and health coaches as well as accredited courses for Psychotherapists and Counsellors.

We talk about:

  • Why Niamh is so passionate about yoga and especially for menopause
  • How to adapt our practice through menopause and as we age
  • The stages of menopause
  • The importance of pleasure
  • Connecting with our nervous systems
  • What we can learn by listening to our bodies
  • The importance of movement throughout the day
  • Being cautious of people making big promises about menopause
  • Looking out for misleading narratives
  • Learning to trust ourselves

And more!

Niamh’s website: yinstinctyoga.com

Facebook | Linkedin | Instagram | YouTube

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Getting Real About Long-Term Health With Sam Palmer

An interview with Sam Palmer, of the Midlife Makeover, getting real about what it takes to achieve long term health and fitness.

Staying Fit And Healthy Through Menopause With Tania Dalton

Meet Tania Dalton, healthy aging coach and fitness trainer who’s passionate about redefining age and empowering women to embrace menopause.

Yoga For Menopause – 7 Reasons Why It’s Great

Looking for a natural remedy for hot flushes and achy joints? Yoga could be the answer. Here’s why it’s great to try yoga for menopause. 

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Episode 143: Caring for older parents with Liz O’Donnell

Liz O’Donnell

Liz O’Donnell is the founder of Working Daughter, a global community for women balancing eldercare and career. She’s the award-winning author of Working Daughter: A Guide to Caring for Your Aging Parents While Earning A Living, which is a brilliant book. She’s a longtime marketing executive who’s become a recognized expert on caregiving and in 2020, she created National Working Daughter’s Day.

We talk about:

  • Why Liz wrote the book, Working Daughter: A Guide to Caring for Your Aging Parents While Earning A Living
  • The importance of moving from resentment to acceptance
  • The power of unconditional love and showing up
  • Why Liz focused on daughters in her book
  • Why it’s helpful to look forward to the time when you’re no longer caring (even though that means your parents are not there anymore)
  • Flexibility and the cost of being flexible
  • How the Covid-19 pandemic put everything in perspective
  • Living through the caregiving
  • How workplaces can help carers
  • The expectation that it will always be the daughter
  • Judging your actions not your thoughts
  • Finding alternative solutions to a difficult situation

And more!

Liz’s website: workingdaughter.com

Liz’s: Facebook | Twitter | Linkedin

Working Daughter: Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

Liz’s books: Working Daughter: A Guide to Caring for Your Aging Parents While Making a Living and Mogul, Mom, & Maid: The Balancing Act of the Modern Woman

Other resources mentioned:

Being Mortal: Illness, Medicine and What Matters in the End

You may also like this podcast: Caring for a loved one with dementia with Carolyn Birrell. Carolyn shares her own journey navigating her mother’s path into dementia, so that others may be better prepared.

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